Ever Wished Your Life Was Heading In A Better Direction?

Then You Need to Hear This..

If you’re anything like me, there have been times when life felt like it was spiraling out of control – almost like all the decisions in life were being made for me, not by me. I know how overwhelming it can be, but here’s the truth: you have the power to take back control.

So – if you're ready to regain control of your life, then you need to listen to this week's episode of Unstuck:

Here's the Thing

When we're younger, all of us absorb negative beliefs about ourselves that impact our actions for the next few decades of our lives. Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same toxic relationship, keep getting the same negative feedback at work, or keep putting off working on the things you know you should be doing? It's because the unconscious part of your mind is making major life decisions for you.

We all have these tendencies, but the key is recognizing them in yourself and taking accountability. Once we take accountability, we can begin to understand the actions better, identify the cause, and address the underlying issue.

>>Why Do We Make Decisions From Our Unconscious Mind?

It's pretty simple – the younger version of ourselves was wounded. What happens when something in nature gets wounded? It goes into survival mode. The tactics and practices the wounded version of yourself implemented are still around. They helped you survive back in the day, but now they're dictating your life as an adult.

>>How We Were Wounded

The majority of our wounds can be bucketed into 2 categories:

Wound of Overwhelm: the world is a scary place, and most things in life are out of our control. As a child, you anchored onto this, and put up defenses to protect yourself. The most common defenses we implement are: procrastination, denying problems, seizing control of situations, or people pleasing to win affection. 

Wound of Insufficiency: at an early age, we were told that who we are is not enough. The most common defenses we implement are: avoiding risk, seeking fame and power, or a constant need for reassurance.

>>How to Move Forward and Heal

Step 1: Reconnecting with Your Inner Child

The key to taking control of your life lies in going back — way back. Your inner child holds the secrets to your deepest wounds and desires. What emotions do you remember feeling as a kid? Were you overwhelmed? What did your inner child need that they never got? How can you give that to yourself now?

Step 2: Embracing Accountability

Regaining control also means taking responsibility for where you are right now. Accountability isn’t about guilt — it’s about reclaiming your power. Recognizing where you're engaging in these patterns and behaviors is the first step to healing, so why not get curious?

Step 3: Opening the Wounds

In order to move forward, we must address the original emotions that caused these wounds in the first place. We have to reconnect with the versions of ourselves that were injured, and fully process these emotions for the first time. This is deep work, but it's the most empowering thing you can possible do for yourself.

If you're ready to start this work today, make sure you download my free list of journal prompts to heal your inner child and take back control of your life.

Again, taking back control of your life is no small thing or easy journey. It starts with small, intentional steps. You’ve got this, and we’re here to walk with you every step of the way.

Until Next Week,

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